Three Peaks climb for bereaved new dad raises thousands for hospital charity

Joe's son Tobias was born sleeping after being diagnosed with a rare syndrome

In May 2020, Dad-to-be Joe Ramsden and his partner Katie, of Roundhay, were eager to find out the gender of their first child together.

The couple were excited for their new arrival and had bought all the supplies for a gender reveal to share their happy news with friends and family.

Due to the coronavirus pandemic, Katie had to go into the 20-week scan alone, to find out the gender of their baby while Joe waited outside in the car.

Joe remembers the heart-breaking moment when Katie came back to the car, after finding out that her baby boy had Edwards’ Syndrome and wasn’t going to survive.

Joe said, “Katie came back to the car and burst into tears. I knew there was something terribly wrong, they weren’t tears of joy, we were both devastated. It all happened so quickly, it didn’t even feel real.”

Edwards’ Syndrome is an incredibly rare chromosome imbalance that affects around 1 in 5,000 babies a year, causing problems with how the baby normally would grow and develop in the womb.

The friends have raised over £1,500 for Leeds Cares

Just two weeks later, the couple were brought into the Rosemary Suite, a special area at Leeds General Infirmary dedicated to bereavement care, where baby Tobias was born sleeping.

Katie and Joe can’t thank the staff on the Rosemary Suite enough for the care and support they provided.

Joe said the little things really made a difference, “Everyone really looked after us, we were given little mementos like a teddy bear to remember Tobias, and they even sourced food for us after we hadn’t eaten for over 24 hours.”

Tracey Campney, a Specialist Bereavement Midwife, told Joe about Leeds Cares, the charity for Leeds Teaching Hospitals NHS Trust and he jumped at the chance to raise funds for the Rosemary Suite.

In August, Joe and some of his rugby friends got together and decided to take on the Yorkshire Three Peaks with the hope of raising £200 for the ward.

Joe was overwhelmed by the support he received from friends and family, and thanks to his fundraising efforts, he smashed his initial target and raised over £1,500 to help other families going through this traumatic experience.